Kalema Lawrence
As the world changes, things like the dating culture in Urban centers also change. In Kampala and other towns around the world, dating is changing from long-term courting to one-night stands. Women with biological clocks ticking from 9’s and 10’s will go to any lengths to find somebody to keep them warm, even for one night.
Just hit any high end bar in your town, look around to dim lighted tables. You have a 90% chance of spotting a mature lady seated alone only waiting to take you home purposely to help her cruise in the sheets.
Men on the other hand, seem to enjoy one night pleasures initiated by women. Different surveys shows that men prefer going to women’s houses not only for free breakfast but also because one night stand women are expensive and clingy.
Here are the reasons why One night stands are on increase among Women than men.
Social media
Social media has created a platform for cheating, flirting and finding no-strings-attached flings. A woman does not necessarily have to go out. With a computer and Internet at her disposal, all she needs is sign up to a local hook up site to get a man for a night.
With her own a house and the man will who deliver himself at her doorstep as soon as dusk approaches and leave before sunrise, she is good to go.
Broke men
These are the guys who enjoy being this game most. They will actually initiate it by acting friendly toward their prey. Good news is, they don’t have to think about the depth of their pockets. With younger women, before making the first move you have to be ready to spend always. If you are good in bed, you may end up getting a spare key to her house and the other car that has been piling up dust for the past one year.
Too much Booze
Kampala is one of the largest alcohol consuming cities in Africa and the women drinking habits have increased over time. With such statistics, women are more likely to get carried away after one, two, three bottles.
Stamping authority
Some men just love a woman who is in control. A single woman with a stable job, who drives her own car, owns a house in Muyenga and is sipping on Chardonnay and Moet will easily attract a man who has been sucking on one bottle of malt. What starts as a simple conversation after he has been invited to join the girls at their table ends up in a pillow talk at the end of the night.
Adventure
People love adventure on this planet. If she does it tonight, she has done this before! A man will definitely want to experience a-one-night stand under the care of a woman so as to have a story to share with the ‘boys’.
Walk of shame
No ‘loaded’ woman in her right mind wants to wake up at 7am, on a Saturday with a hangover. A typical middle-class woman wants to be in the comfort of her bed the morning after. It always feels better for them to wake up in bed, dictate what time the man should leave before the real boyfriend walks in.
Peer pressure
Women have a tendency of consulting ‘their girls’ on the minutest aspects of life, relationships and sexually related issues included. Most of these innocently blind follow her friend’s words of advice. They also need to refer to such experiences in the future tale referencing of ‘been there, done that!’
Rise of women in the middle class of life
It’s mostly the middle class women who have the luxury of using sex for pleasure. With all the money at their disposal, what’s missing in the equation is alcohol, company and sexual satisfaction.
International TV Shows
For a generation of young, university-educated women brought up on a diet of Rihanna and having Sex and the City actresses as role models, sexual freedom is clearly something to be proud of and not ashamed of. It has become such a badge of honor for a Kampala woman that being traditional is considered boring.
